Lifelong relationship is a thing of past now we see many many cases where couple file for divorce just after marriage. In the following article we are trying to find out top five reasons why couple spareted out just after honeymoon.
- Lack of Respect for each other (specially in love marriage)
- Failed to seduce
- No time for tolerance
- Lack of acceptance
Lack of Respect for each other (specially in love marriage)
While the occurrence sounds true for an arranged marriage where one is unaware of the other person's likes and dislikes, it is more true in love marriages.Take for instance Kanika (name changed), who recently filed for divorce. "We were dating for three years before marriage. But I noticed significant changes in him during our honeymoon. He expected me to do all his work and started taking me for granted. This was a far cry from the time when we were dating and this transformation came as a shock. Rather than being unhappy with him, I made up my mind to go for a divorce," she says. This is a perfect case of disrespect for the partner and same is seen from husband towards wife.
While differences in their nature, past relationships, uncertainty on expectations, hiding facts, non-consummation of marriage are prime reasons for divorce, it is exaggerated all the more due to ego hassles and growing economic and financial independence. Over-interference from the family is also seen as a red signal in the relationship.
Failed to seduce
Last month, a couple went for their honeymoon to Bali, but the woman's efforts to seduce her husband failed and the 10-day trip was cut short to three days. When asked about the reason for not being physically intimate, the boy stated that even though he was not in love with someone else, he did not feel connected to his wife. Post their return, they decided to go for a separation. So failed to seduce is one of the core factor of early divorce specially in working couple.
No time for tolerance
Increasing daily stress leaves people with zero tolerance to any more tension. After compromising on most things, people reach a saturation point beyond which they don't want to compromise any further." Seen mainly amongst the higher middle class section of society, it is primarily younger couples who refuse to adjust.
Lack of acceptance
Many a times people are not ready to accept each other because of their past association with someone else, mismatch in family or social status, too much interference from family members etc. This is equally true for love and arrange marriage both. My take on this is that "Marriage is a work in progress and one is bound to get bored — the idea is to maintain it the way you maintain a car in order to keep it going."